Gaining

Curious to know, specifically for the women who classify as a feedee/gainer type,

what is it that you think classifies you as either the gainer or feedee that you are?

When did u first begin to notice you were either one or the other ?

What would be the difference? Is there even a semi-official definition?

I suppose if the qualifier is that a "feedee" needs a feeder to force overeating. Although, I don't follow this definition.

I think a feedee could want to gain even without a feeder. Or at the very least, I see many self-identified feedees who gain even without a feeder yet hopes to find one.

I have also yet to see a self-identified gainer who would turn down feeding, but perhaps isn't looking for a feeder in particular.

Perhaps this is the distinction? The desire and vested interest in finding a feeder?

Yeah that's why Im curious from the female side of it! Hopefully I can hear some feedback lol

None of this is codified so take it as you wish...

A gainer is someone who wants to gain. Alone, together; the means aren't the main thing. Gaining is.

A feedee is someone who needs feeding, encouraging, enabling in order to gain.

I see myself as a feeder because I love enabling and encouraging my wife's overeating and her gaining.
I don't see her as a gainer because getting big(ger) isn't what she wants. In that way she is my feedee because I have to help make sure she gets her calories and keeps growing.

Totally! Def sounds like your a feeder very curious to hear from the female feedee/gainer perspective